Get the Girl: Simple Steps to Land Your Valentine’s Date

Posted on 31. Jan, 2010 by admin in Dating & Sex

By: CJ Waterton

Attention ladies - its time to put a ring on it! Ok, maybe a ring is a bit too much, but if you’re still single, ’tis the season to all change that. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and if you had a bit of trouble finding that special someone; dust off those dating skills and get back out there. Follow these simple, but effective tips and soon she’ll be putting a ring on you!

The Plan:

Open Your Mind(and Your Surroundings) - Do you find yourself saying there are no more good girls out there? Rubbish! There are - it’s all about placing yourself in the right situations to find her. If you only frequent your neighborhood bar, think about spreading your wings a bit and try a new spot.

Utilize Your Resources - Think about the people who know and love you best; your friends. Use your resources and tell them you’re on prowl. They know you the best and will know the types of women you will like.

The Approach:

So you’ve put yourself out there to experience something new. Congratulations! However, your mission is far from over. Now you’ve got to approach her. The best way to a girl’s heart is honesty. Tell her why you are approaching her. Was it her hair, her eyes, her smile, her style? Compliments will get you everywhere and it’s a great ice breaker. No girl can resist a great compliment and it makes both of you more relaxed. Believe me if she’s interested she will let you know by continuing the conversation. If there is too much awkward silence takes a cue from Jay-Z and move “On To the Next One”.

The Deal Maker:

Things are going great, she smiling at that good old southern charm and all that’s left is to seal the deal. No, not that deal - there will be no love in this club yet (we’ll get there); I’m referring to getting the digits, silly. Now I know that asking for someone’s number or information can be a bit nerve racking, but try these successful lines. Simply ask “Can I have you phone number?”, or “Here’s my card, we should hang out”, and the always victorious “Look me up on facebook”, or a fool proof way you can tell if she is in to you is to give her your number. If she calls, she is definitely interested.

The “What Ifs”:

The age old question: how long before you call? My theory is as soon as you can. Calling the next day shows her that you’re definitely interested and there is no guessing. Be assertive and ask her out to your favorite place. That way you feel comfortable and that will allow you to have the upper hand. She may even be impressed that the waiter knows you by name.

The Date

Now of course the point of a first date is for her to get to know the best you. Do your best to put your best foot forward. Basically, introduce them to your front woman. Leave the ripped jeans at home and iron your shirt. Women notice everything. They will notice a chip in your nails, how you smell, the earrings you wear, your hairstyle, a stain on your shirt, whether or not you shoes are clean. Also, this is not the time to wear your little sister’s mini skirt. You want to leave something to the imagination. So take pride in your appearance. One will never fault you for overdressing. When in doubt just take it up a notch. Make it fancy. Remember first impressions are everything.

The Conversation:

Now that you’re on your date, this is the time to determine if this is someone you want to pursue. If she is, make sure she knows your intentions. How will you do this you ask? Stay interested; ask questions. Listen, and then ask follow up questions to show you’re listening. This is very important because there is nothing more annoying then being stuck on a date with someone whose eyes are wondering, who is constantly checking their phone, or worse, who is quiet as a mouse and adds nothing to a conversation. When at the dinner table, resort back to your home training. Put the napkin on your lap and keep your mouth closed when chewing or talking. It’s ok to be relaxed, but just be aware of your surroundings. Know the difference between fine dinning and drive-thru.

The Selling Point:

Talk about things that interest you and are appealing. But, there is a fine line between selling yourself and seeming pompous and arrogant. You have to walk that line and find your perfect swagga. Try your best to find something that you two have in common, it’s a great starting point. For example, you can talk about movies, sports, music, or even television. You are there to get to know each other, but keep the conversation light. You want to avoid getting into deep conversations about subjects like religion and politics. And a glass wine or a cocktail is ok, but do not get drunk!

The Deal Closer:

If you have made it this far, you have successfully completed you first date. Now its time to say goodnight, and this could go a few different ways depending on how successful the night was. If you’ve had a good time and would like another date the best way to let her know is to just tell her exactly that. You won’t come on too strong and she will know you are interested. And who knows, you might be getting lucky by the 14^th. Now if you guys really hit it off, the date doesn’t have to end there. It can definitely move to a second location, a coffee shop, a lounge, or an event. And if the second location is your bedroom, well then hey, score!

On Valentines Day you don’t have to be alone (unless, of course, you want to be). So get out there and make the effort to find that special someone. I know people always advise you to just be yourself, but sometimes you need to work on yourself before you can be it.

Happy Valentines Day!

C.J. Waterton is a contributing GayGirlsGuide.net